We need to talk: Is pain during sex really normal??

Pain during sex is much more common than you think –  up to 75% of women experience it at some point. While some women may only experience occasional pain, others may deal with persistent discomfort. It's possible to experience pain and discomfort, even if you previously have not. 🙁

This mightttt just want you to avoid sex sometimes, but that’s not a solution, is it? That’s when you know it’s time to visit the gynac! 👩🏻‍⚕️

😷 Addressing the Stigma

Sexual health often carries a stigma that needs to be tackled. Recognising painful sex as something to be looked into, is Step #1 of tackling the stigma. 

Although pain during sex is common, it shouldn't be accepted as normal. Occasional minor soreness is usually not a concern, but persistent or intense pain warrants a conversation with your doctor. 

Sex should be pleasurable, girls! If it's not enjoyable anymore, discussing discomfort with your partner and doctor is important. Prioritise your sexual health, just as you would your physical or mental health!

Common cause: Dryness

Dryness is a frequent cause of painful sex, affecting women of all ages, though more common in perimenopausal and postmenopausal women. Dryness can also lead to infections, exacerbating the pain. 😖 

The use of birth control, breastfeeding, and menopause are some of the most common causes of dryness down there!

Solution? Easy – using a water-based lubricant can help significantly! 💦

Ensure that you and your partner engage in ample foreplay to get your body’s natural lubes working for you too ;)

❗Seeking Help ❗

Painful sex usually has an identifiable and treatable cause. If you're avoiding sex due to pain, it's time to see a doctor, with a gynaecologist being a good starting point for diagnosis. Many women are hesitant to discuss pelvic issues, but it's important to open up to friends, loved ones, and healthcare providers! 👩🏻‍⚕️

Women often blame themselves for sexual dysfunction, which can lead to delayed diagnoses in many cases. 

Recognizing it as a health issue, reducing the stigma around discussing sexual health, and seeking medical advice can help find relief and take much-deserved pleasure in sex! 💃🏻

Sources:

https://www.cedars-sinai.org/blog/pain-during-sex.html

https://www.healthline.com/health/dyspareunia#diagnosis